Comments on: The Tradition of an Engagement Ring

By: christina

christina — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 04:22:27 +0000

I was asked by my fiance to go and look at rings I may like and I have to say that I was excited about the whole thing. He wanted to buy me an expensive ring with a HUGE rock in the middle, and as much as I thought I would love to show it off, I realized that it would put him in debt. When we became married that would become my debt. I had to tell him what was really important. What is really important to understand is that the "RING" is not the prize. My future husband is the PRIZE! The ring is like a bow. It is pretty, and can be flashy, but the real gift is the person giving it to you. We decided on a smaller less expensive ring that we could buy without making payments. He is my PRIZE!!!

By: Brittany

Brittany — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:54:12 +0000

I'm not sure what my boyfriend actually paid for my engagement ring i just no what the thing is worth( $3000) he got it on sale. I didnt care how much he spent on the thing i just wanted him to pick it out on his own and me too like it which i do.

By: adero

adero — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 23:23:40 +0000

i just want to know if it is appropriate for the female to pick her wedding and engagement set herself, together with the man she will wed? what is the proper ettiquette for picking, purchasing, and giving the ring to the female? when i got married we were dirt poor and got our rings at the west indian shop in plain old sterling silver. i chose one with some designs on it while his was a plain silver band. we divorced in the third year of our marriage so i guess it was good that we did not spend a lot of time and money saving up for that not so special event. what is the scoop? my daughter is planning on getting married and the first ring he got her she refused to take it. she wanted a bigger one. he chose to wait a while before he gave her the second one. i guess she is satisfied because she is telling everyone about it. she even called my mom long distance. something she never does, so i guess this is the thingy she wanted. they plan to get married in a year after they save up for the wedding expenses. help! i need to know if this is the proper way to handle this?

By: nico

nico — Sun, 04 Feb 2007 07:15:23 +0000

I think everyones circumstances are different. I never wanted a big ring and I got one. I appreciate it ~but we both know it was not necessary. If you have the $ then spending 14000 on a ring is a fun excuse to do something special and crazy together. As far as love, marriage, and making a commitment - we dont need a ring to prove that. I love him regardless of what we have or dont have.

By: Dear Working Woman

Dear Working Woman — Fri, 15 Dec 2006 17:29:01 +0000

My wife was working when we got engaged and I was finishing law school. I was in school-loan debt but had already accepted a job with a big firm, so I planned to buy her a ring once the checks started coming in. In the meantime she fell in love with a (huge) ring and bought it herself... all without me spending a dime. I felt sort of emasculated at first and promised to pay her back. But once we were married, the money mingled, we had mortgage payments, utility bills, and so on. I look at that ring like a token of a time when we changed from dating to being engaged and eventually married--not a symbol of my failure to come up with thousands of dollars on the spot. The only real downer was that even though she knew we were getting engaged soon, I wanted to buy a ring and surprise her to some extent. I missed out on that, but have no real regrets about it at all. And the ring is fantastic.

By: Getting engaged

Getting engaged — Fri, 28 Apr 2006 20:55:32 +0000

I think it's fine for a women to contribute to her own engagement ring. My future husband and I are flying to belgium to pick up a diamond. I'm paying for the setting and he's paying for a small diamond (1/2 carat).

By: Working Woman

Working Woman — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 22:14:26 +0000

Does anyone out there think it's ok for a women to contribute to her own engagement ring? After we are married there will be no "his" and "her" money anyway...

By: anonymous woman

anonymous woman — Sun, 14 Aug 2005 21:14:44 +0000

I feel that the tradition of engagement rings is sexist; it dates back to when women were property and men paid for them.

As a female, I think it's silly that I get two rings while my husband gets one. I bought my husband a wedding ring and he bought me one. Personally, I cringe and am humiliated when women ooh and aah like 13-yr-olds over a big sparkly thing. They lose their minds completely and make the rest of us look like materialistic idiots.

By: stranger

stranger — Fri, 28 Jan 2005 00:15:35 +0000

A $250 ring will last just as long as a $2,000 ring, the statement about it lasting seems ridicilous and irrelevant.

As for the last poster, we need less women who are "giving their life to a man", and more women who have their own life, much like the man they love, and togeether they have a union of lives, not giving of lives.

By: ktp

ktp — Tue, 10 Aug 2004 16:24:36 +0000

guys, if you decide a ring's not important, then for god's sake make sure the girl thinks so too! After proposing to me, my now-ex then decided he didn't have time to go with me to buy a ring, and told me to go on my own. Needless to say, that wasn't the way I had dreamt that one of the biggest days of my life would happen. That was the beginning of the end... most girls are very traditional when it comes to giving your life to a man but may be proud about admitting they are upset that you don't think a ring is important!